Found this link here whilst visiting this blog today and I found it very thought provoking. I can see that I have been through much of what it talks about when I left my church and it was good to see that I have had a relatively normal reaction to what was a very difficult. Have a read what do you think? Is it like your journey?
Thats it I give up I am a crier……….
when I was a kid and was upset about something my dad used to say “we dont cry in this house be brave chin up” so I have spent much of my 33 years trying not to cry. I dont think he was being mean I think that he just felt that if you cry then you are letting the thing you were sad about affect you. The thing is that only serves to make me feel worse. When I try not to be upset about something it just ends up 100 times bigger in my head.
Over the past two years I have learnt that there is nothing wrong with having a good old cry and in many ways I feel better when I have. For a while I was visiting a psychologist and she encouraged me to have a crying teddy, whom I would cuddle and share my sadness with. I didn’t go that far but I appreciate her point.
As a mother I cry often as my kids move out of one stage and into another. I used to be embarrassed about this but not anymore it is just part of who I am
Case in point my sister in law took some photos of my nine year old (see them here njoy the moment) I cried like a baby , not because I didn’t like the pics but because I cant believe she is sooo grown up and soooo beautiful.
As a baby Christian I was taught that to cry and feel sad is sin that you must always feel “joy” but I now see that what they saw as joy is happiness and they are two completely different things. Jesus wept after all.
Gods joy to me is that knowing I have that even when I dont feel happy he is right there with a better plan, a good way and he can see the end. That his work in my life is complete even when I can not see the beginning of it. It is NOT warm fuzzies or a sense of happiness as these are only fleeting. JOY in a god sense is a gift from him and something that is eternal and not dependant on how I actually feel. Do I understand what I just wrote. Not really but is is great to know that I dont have to put on my “christian face and smile when all I want to do is weep.
This was emailed to me by my friend in Tassie and I cried when I saw it couldn’t resist posting it………
“A picture began circulating in November. It should be ‘The Picture of the Year,’ or perhaps, ‘Picture of the Decade.’ It won’t be. In fact,unless you obtained a copy of the US paper which published it, you probably would never have seen it.
The picture is that of a 21-week-old unborn baby named Samuel Alexander Armas, who is being operated on by surgeon named Joseph Bruner.
The baby was diagnosed with spina bifida and would not survive if removed from his mother’s womb. Little Samuel’s mother, Julie Armas, is an obstetrics nurse in Atlanta. She knew of Dr Bruner’s remarkable surgical procedure. Practicing at Vanderbilt Univ Med Ctr in Nashville, he performs these special operations while the baby is still in the womb.
During the procedure, the doctor removes the uterus via C-section and makes a small incision to operate on the baby. As Dr Bruner completed the surgery on Samuel, the little guy reached his tiny, but fully developed hand through the incision and firmly grasped the surgeon’s finger. Dr Bruner was reported as saying that when his finger was grasped, it was the most emotional moment of his life, and that for an instant during the procedure he was just frozen, totally immobile.
The photograph captures this amazing event with perfect clarity The editors titled the picture, ‘Hand of Hope.’ The text explaining the picture begins, ‘The tiny hand of 21-week-old fetus Samuel Alexander Armas emerges from the mother’s uterus
to grasp the finger of Dr Joseph Bruner as if thanking the doctor for the gift of life.’
Little Samuel’s mother said they ‘wept for days’ when they saw the picture. She said, ‘The photo reminds us pregnancy isn’t about disability or an illness, it’s about a little person.’Samuel was born in perfect health, the operation 100 percent successful. “
I visited Heather’s blog today and found this typealyzear. I am not attuned to pleasure or beauty but think I would be if I had time but the rest is fairly like me. I don’t like confrontation but will have a go if pushed.I often confront people in my mind rather than in real life. I often exhaust myself by putting others first and love to help others in a way that can be seen.
I also did my Hubby’s blog which came just like him also weird. I am not really into personality profiling as it was something my ex-church used against people to to excuse bad behavior of leaders.
I am not putting any weight on this just thought it was a bit of fun
Here is wot it said
The entertaining and friendly type. They are especially attuned to pleasure and beauty and like to fill their surroundings with soft fabrics, bright colors and sweet smells. They live in the present moment and don´t like to plan ahead - they are always in risk of exhausting themselves.
The enjoy work that makes them able to help other people in a concrete and visible way. They tend to avoid conflicts and rarely initiate confrontation - qualities that can make it hard for them in management positions.
